Bobby and I had a conversation about schedules this morning.
I keep a calendar just for his schedule and shows. It's with me all the time and I don't think he's ever looked at it. Before me, he kept all his dates in his phone, but since me....he just asks me what's going on. This morning I wanted to go over his schedule for the upcoming week with him, and he said "Clay and Steve keep everything in their phone. I really need to take time to put it all in my phone." Great idea, honey...let's see if he actually looks at the book in the next few days. And I promise, later today he'll ask me what time his gig is tomorrow, and tomorrow morning he ask me again what time it is and where it is. Maybe if I put his schedule in his phone, he'll look at it? I've learned that if I do it, he doesn't! Like scheduling songwriters for the rounds, keeping track of his schedule, making fliers etc. I actually like doing all that. It keeps me connected to his music and his career. But I'm more than happy to share the responsibility with him. I used to go to every single performance. It can be exhausting and overwhelming. I've recently started saying no. At least once a week, I stay home and take care of me and do the things that I like to do, instead of sitting around a venue. Don't get me wrong, I do like hearing everyone play, but if I get burned out, he gets anxious and home isn't so sweet. So I make sure, if I really need time to myself, I take it. Monday's are my day off from music. He hosts a round every monday and I used to go to them all. It was too much and so now I look forward to my monday nights to myself. Waiting for the call later today, "honey who plays tonight at the round?" and tomorrow "What time is my show again?" :) Love my music man
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I'VE BEEN A MUSICIAN'S WIFE FOR TWO YEARS NOW, BUT PART OF THIS LIFE FOR THE LAST FOUR YEARS. OVERALL, I LOVE IT! I MEET LOTS OF INTERESTING PEOPLE AT GIGS , SOME OF WHICH HAVE BECOME MY FRIENDS. MY SCHEDULE? 5 DAYS A WEEK, I'M AN ADMINISTRATIVE ASSISTANT DURING THE DAY AND 5-7 DAYS A WEEK I'M A ROADIE, VIDEOGRAPHER, PR MANAGER, FASHIONISTA (JUST FOR MY HUSBAND) , HAND CLAPPER, PICTURE TAKER ETC. I WORK TWO FULL TIME JOBS AND I'LL TELL YOU, MY DAY JOB IS SO MUCH EASIER.
WHEN I MET BOBBY, HE TOLD ME THAT HE SANG AND PLAYED GUITAR. AWWW, THAT'S SWEET. FIRST TIME I HEARD HIM PLAY AT AN OPEN MIC, I WAS SURPRISED. FIRST TIME I HEARD HIM PLAY A 3 HOUR GIG, I WAS IMPRESSED. AND IT WAS FUN! NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS WOULD I HAVE IMAGINED MY LIFE AS IT IS NOW. I HAD NO IDEA WE'D MOVE FROM A TINY TOWN IN OHIO TO NASHVILLE TN AND JUMP FEET FIRST INTO THIS LIFESTYLE. BUT, WE'RE IN IT DEEP NOW! I WOULDN'T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY. IS IT WORTH IT? YES! IS IT EXHAUSTING? ABSOLUTELY! DO YOU GET BURNED OUT? OF COURSE! BUT....WE'RE A TEAM AND WE'RE IN THIS TOGETHER. HIS FAILURES AND SUCCESSES ARE MINE AS WELL, AND WE'RE HAVING A BLAST IN OUR 50'S BEING ROCKSTARS! |
ADRIENNEI am the wife of Bobby Ray, manager, social media creator, roadie, scheduler, fan club president....and all the other hats. Mother of 3 adult children, grandmother of one, step mom to 3 adult children and mother n law to 2 more. Archives |